How To Heal From Your Past

"I have made you and I WILL carry you.

I will SUSTAIN you and RESCUE you, says The Lord."

~Isaiah 46:4

"I will RESTORE your health (mental, physical, emotional and spiritual).

I will HEAL your wounds (ALL of them)."

~Jeremiah 30:17

You ever heard the words, "Hurt people hurt others?" Yes? Well, it's true. You want to know why they hurt others? They never healed from a pain that had been sitting on their hearts for quite some time: days, weeks, years...even decades. It's like being around a nasty dragon, spitting fire. Then, you find out it had a thorn in its side the whole time. No wonder it was nasty. In human terms, instead of dealing and healing from the pain, they:

• Fired you for no good reason

• Cheated on you because they'd been cheated on in the past

• Ignored you

• Neglected you

• Blamed you

• Laughed at you

• Refused to understand it from your perspective

• Stole from you (that includes stealing people)

• Forgot about you

• Yelled at you

• Refused to forgive you

• Refused to show compassion

• Beat you

• Lied to you

• Etc. (this could be anything negative)

Hey, have you ever been...the dragon?

So, that's a maybe then?

You're here for a reason. You need healing, either from someone or because you hurt someone. You're not the person you want to be right now. You're not where God wants you to be right now. And you know it. Deep down, you know it. You need healing. So...

The first step is to:

LET IT GO! LET GO OF THE PAST. NOW.

Don't give me that face. That's right. I said it. LET. IT. GO.

If you refuse to let go of the past, it will haunt you, hinder you, and drain you of hope for the future. Think about it. When you think of the people and things that hurt you in the past, how do you feel? Sad? Mad? Resentful? Hateful? Depressed? Murderous, even? Want to hurt them as much as they hurt you? More?

Tell me. Does any of that sound like the beginning of a good day? And yet, sometimes, you wake up mad! You wake up thinking about the hurt and the pain. You go to sleep thinking about it. You dream about it, and then you WAKE UP thinking about it again! Sometimes, it feels like a 24/7 job to stay mad about it. After a while, you start forgetting why you're STILL so mad. And then the cycle starts ALL over again...

There was a VICTORY moment just now, and you missed it. At some point, something inside of you started to heal on its own...but then you REMINDED it to stay mad! You know I'm right! Don't deny it...

"Okay, I won't!"

Glad I could make you smile with a little "Come to Jesus Moment." 'Cause that's just what happened. Let me cut straight to the point.

God wants to do a NEW thing in you. He wants to give you a new:

• Outlook

• Attitude

• Way of thinking

• Habit of LETTING GO OF THE PAST RIGHT AWAY! (that's a good habit to have, btw)

"Do not CLING to events of the past or DWELL on what happened long ago.

WATCH for the NEW thing I am going to do in you. It's happening ALREADY!

You can see it now!"

~Isaiah 43:18-19 (GNT)

So, now, I ask you:

Think about that for a second. If you really want something, you do what's necessary to achieve it. If you really want to heal, should you really be thinking about the hurt all the time? Exactly!!

Your mind plays tricks to convince you that thinking about the past just a little bit more will make you feel better. Logically, that makes NO sense. But you're not thinking logically when you're hurt, are you? You're thinking:

And THAT'S where you'll find HEALING--in the understanding that it's your emotions and spirit that need fixing! That situation happened already! You can't go back in time to change it (as much as you'd like to). That person is STILL that person (no matter how much you wish they'd find a cliff and take a rolling nap). But...

GOD IS ALSO STILL GOD! He can do ANYTHING, including FIX YOUR EMOTIONS and SPIRIT!

As impossible as it may seem right now to heal from years of pain and disappointments, GOD CAN DO IT. You just have to LET Him. Here's how you let Him in:

Step 1:

• LET IT ALL GO (the hurt, the suffering, the constant toxic thoughts)

Step 2:

• ASK GOD TO HELP YOU LET IT ALL GO. (<-- that's a link) You can't do it all on your own.

Step 3:

• KEEP LETTING GO! Treat it like medicine. This is good for you.

Folks, letting go of the past, the hurt, the pain, the betrayals, the embarrassments, the disappointments and so on is a process, but you DO have to make a DECISION to actually do it!

Do you trust yourself to heal? Do you trust that you'll be happy if you let it ALL go? ALL of it? These are very good questions. A lot of times, we have NO CLUE what kind of person we'll be if we change.

YOU: "If I let it all go, then what? What will I do?"

You will:

And Grow. Isn't that what you want? Well, you've got your 3 steps above! Okay, now, let's list off what will happen AS YOU HEAL. You'll be:

• PEACEFUL

• HAPPIER

• LIGHTER (like a weight's been lifted)

• BETTER

You'll go looking for MORE opportunities to HEAL. You'll start protecting your peace of mind at ALL costs because a healed heart feels so good! You'll accept God's version of healing. He heals FULLY, RELENTLESSY (if you let Him), and TRANSFORMATIVELY. As He's doing His "new thing" in you (remember, Isaiah 43 way above), you'll become a new person. People won't recognize you! Want to know why? The ENTIRE time you LET God heal you, He was:

• Humbling you. Teaching you to FORGIVE as YOU'VE BEEN FORGIVEN.

• Loving you. Teaching you to show love even when it's not returned. "Love Anyway" is God's motto. He calls that unconditional love, something we all want.

• Growing you. Teaching you that as you let go, He'll just GIVE YOU the ideas you need for that new business, new personal project, new song, new book, new friendship. You LET GOD clear away ALL the muck, so now He can BLESS YOU with ALL the things you've been waiting for! What a REWARD!

What? Oh, I forgot to mention that part?! My bad. It's true! God's just WAITING for you to let Him heal you so He can clear you up for the blessings you've been WAITING FOR! Wow, looks like everyone in this scenario is waiting for something good!

Folks, if there are dreams that you have been waiting for, letting God heal you is one of the fastest ways to get to them. He likes new things, and He can't place blessings in old, decrepit things. He won't place new wine into old wine skins. They'll burst because they won't be able to handle all the goodness (Matthew 9:17). If your heart is weary from hurt and pain, and you REFUSE to heal, guess what. You're shooting yourself in the foot with God! He won't put new blessings in you!

Oh, and one more thing. If you refuse to FORGIVE the person, who hurt you, you'll also be shooting yourself in the foot with God. He's very specific on this rule:

"Therefore, I tell you, WHATEVER you ask for in prayer, BELIEVE that you have ALREADY received it, and it WILL BE YOURS.

BUT,

(here's the MAJOR caveat)

When you pray, IF YOU HOLD ANYTHING AGAINST ANYONE, FORGIVE them, as your Father in Heaven has forgiven you.

~Mark 11:24-25

So, do yourself a favor. Let Him heal you! The scripture above is for your PEACE OF MIND. It's for your good mental health. It doesn't matter WHAT they did! The toxic thoughts are killing you! You HAVE GOT TO LET THEM GO! FORGIVE THE PERSON and walk away. Remember, you HAVE TO Protect Your Peace (PYP) and search for ways to heal, not harbor bad feelings.

You've got your 3 steps to healing. Time to do them, folks!

Step 1: LET IT ALL GO

Step 2: ASK GOD TO HELP YOU LET IT ALL GO

Step 3: KEEP LETTING GO

Let me know how you transformed in a year. You won't be able to recognize yourself.

Take Care and God Bless Always.

~From Brown Girl In The World